Question:

Assalamu alaykum. I would like to know if under the following circumstances my marriage was nullified.

 1. My husband wrote me in messenger:   I was just about to say 1 talaq.
 2. One day he asked me to promise him that I am not going to hurt him and that if I do so again, our marriage will be nullified. I disagreed and rejected. But in a couple of days, when I learned about his intention to marry another woman, I said If you marry her, I will be haraam to you.

 So could you please help me find out if those words above caused me to divorce my husband?

 

Also, there was one time after I asked to divorce many times, he said alright, bring me a man who would like to marry you, then I will divorce you, Does this also count?

 

I kindly ask you to give me fatwa based on hanafi mazhab
 Thank You

 

Follow-up questions sent to the questioner:

 

To answer your question, we need clarity on the following:

 

You have written:

"One day he asked me to promise him that I am not going to hurt him and that if I do so again, our marriage will be nullified. I disagreed and rejected."

 

1. Are these his exact words "our marriage will be nullified"?

 

2. Is it connected to his previous words: "that promise me that you are not going to hurt him and if you do so again our marriage will be nullified"? Or did he say them separately? In other words, did he ask you to promise that your marriage will be nullified if you hurt him or did he say it himself, i.e. did he himself say that your marriage will be nullified if you hurt him?

 

Response to follow-up questions:

 

Dear imam,

He asked me to say those words, but i did not. He did not make divorce conditioned on the fact that I upset him. 

Thank you

 

 

Answer:

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

Based on the information you have provided, no talaq has taken place. The detail of this is as follows:

You stated that your husband said the following words:

“I was just about to say 1 talaq”

“Alright, bring me a man who would like to marry you, then I will divorce you”

Since all these sentences are said in the future tense, no divorce has taken place. Rather in all the mentioned sentences he has intended to divorce you in the future and has not executed it. The scholars (including the Hanafī school of thought) have explicitly mentioned that divorce does not take place merely by intending to do so in the future.

 

Similarly, by you saying: “If you marry her, I will be haraam to you” also does not render the marriage invalid because Islam has not given the woman the right to issue a divorce in this manner, unless authorised by the husband.

In the case where your husband asked you to promise him that if you hurt him again your marriage will end, no divorce will take place whether you have hurt him or not, since that statement of his is neither a statement of divorce nor is it a statement authorising you to issue divorce. 

In summary, no talaq has taken place and your marriage is intact.

في القرآن الكريم: ((اَلرِّجَالُ قَوّٰمُوْنَ عَلَي النِّسَاۗءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰهُ بعضهم عَلٰي بَعْضٍ وَّبِمَآ اَنْفَقُوْا مِنْ اَمْوَالِهِمْ ۭ فَالصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰهُ)) (النسآء 34)

في الشامية تحت: (قوله و ما بمعناها من الصريح) وَكَذَا الْمُضَارِعُ إذَا غَلَبَ فِي الْحَالِ مِثْلُ أُطَلِّقُك، كَمَا فِي الْبَحْر. (رد المحتار: 4/ 445 ط دار الأزهر)

و في الهندية: فَقَالَ الزَّوْجُ طَلَاق ميكنم طَلَاق ميكنم (أي أطلق أطلق) وَكَرَّرَ ثَلَاثًا طَلُقَتْ ثَلَاثًا بِخِلَافِ قَوْلِهِ كَنَمِّ (سأطلق) لِأَنَّهُ اسْتِقْبَالٌ فَلَمْ يَكُنْ تَحْقِيقًا بِالتَّشْكِيكِ. (الفتاوى الهندية 1/ 420 دار الكتب العلمية) 

و في الدر المختار: بِخِلَافِ قَوْلِهِ طَلِّقِي نَفْسَك فَقَالَتْ أَنَا طَالِقٌ أَوْ أَنَا أُطَلِّقُ نَفْسِي لَمْ يَقَعْ لِأَنَّهُ وَعْدٌ جَوْهَرَةٌ. (رد المحتار: 4/ 548-549 ط دار الأزهر)

و في الهندية: إذَا قَامَتْ عَنْ مَجْلِسِهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ تَخْتَارَ نَفْسَهَا وَكَذَا إذَا اشْتَغَلَتْ بِعَمَلٍ آخَرَ يَعْلَمُ أَنَّهُ كَانَ قَاطِعًا لِمَا قَبْلَهُ كَمَا إذَا دَعَتْ بِطَعَامٍ لِتَأْكُلَهُ أَوْ نَامَتْ أَوْ نَشِطَتْ أَوْ اغْتَسَلَتْ أَوْ اخْتَضَبَتْ أَوْ جَامَعَهَا زَوْجُهَا أَوْ خَاطَبَتْ رَجُلًا بِالْبَيْعِ وَالشِّرَاءِ فَهَذَا كُلُّهُ يُبْطِلُ خِيَارَهَا كَذَا فِي السِّرَاجِ الْوَهَّاجِ (الفتاوى الهندية 1/ 423 دار الكتب العلمية)

 

Imdad-ul-Fatawa Volume 2 Page 385-386 (Maktabah Dārul Ulūm Karachi 2010)

Ahsanul Fatawa Vol 5 Page 148 (H.M Saeed Company Karachi 1425)

Aap Ke Masaail Aur Unka Hal Vol 6 Page 618-619 & 627 (Maktabah Ludhyānwī 2011)

And Allah Ta'ala knows best.

Sh.  Ahmad Moim Siddiqui
 30/08/2022

Checked and approved by:
 Mufti Faizal Riza

 Darul Ifta Australia
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